Things Escorts Wish Clients Knew Before Booking
I happened accross a thread on Twitter the other day and it was all about things escorts wish that clients knew before booking an appointment. I thought to myself, 'what a great idea for a blog post!' No need to delay, let's get into it!
If you aren't familiar with hobby boards, this one probably doesn't apply to you - but asking an escort over email what is on the 'menu' sexually is a huge no-no (and a red flag to the escort as well). Even asking her in person is a pretty huge no-no. There are several reasons for this. One major reason is safety. If you are asking an escort which sexual services she is willing to provide, and you are doing this over email, then you are putting yourself and the escort at huge legal risk. God forbid the emails were to fall in the wrong hands, or if you or your escort got stung by an officer somehow and the emails had all that illegal information in them, what with you asking if you can get X or Y explicit service... I am sure you can agree it's not a good idea. "But how do I know she will do what I want?" You may be asking yourself that. If you are looking to check off certain sexual acts like a list, then you probably aren't into seeing an escort for the right reason - seems you are looking for a hole, and not a human.
Just be open. Be open to meeting the person an going with the flow. When you have booked, arrived, and spoken with your provider for a little bit at the beginning of your session, then it is a great time to mention a couple things you'd like to try. I'm sure she will be happy to oblige so long as it's a safe activity. And if not? Well I am certain she can think of a few things you would like instead ;)
While we are talking about safe activities, let's talk about unsafe ones. This Tweet brings up a couple different very good points. This provider in particular doesn't do any fluid bonding, and only offers safe services, which means no kissing and nothing bare. All providers have different boundaries and rules for their service, just like all businesses have different services, offers, and rules. Some of those rules you wont like, and in that case I would suggest you research your intended provider carefully to make sure you are getting what you want. What is not ok? Showing up to the booking and offering to pay extra for unsafe services, or trying to convince/coerce a provider into crossing lines she isn't comfortable crossing with you.
An additional good point is that many escorts signed up for OnlyFans during the beginning of the pandemic. Just because she does something on her OnlyFans does not mean that she will offer it as a service to you. I have anal videos on my OF, but I don't offer that service to clients. Some providers may show services that would be unsafe with a client, but that they feel comfortable doing with a trusted work partner or someone who has been tested to their comfort level. Porn is a fantasy and is not reality, and you should not assume that something you saw in her video is on the table when you make a booking.
This provider brings up a controversial topic: tipping. I would say that very few escorts I have ever met in my life expect or ask for tips. This person clearly expects them. This is where Twitter can be a great tool in figuring out if you will be a good match with someone. If your escort has a Twitter, you can see what she posts, comments, likes and interacts with. If this is the sort of thing that would turn you off of meeting someone, best to know beforehand.
That being said, every provider DOES appreciate a little extra as a gift if that is something you *want* to do. She is absolutely correct that for most of us, it's half our rate just to reserve an incall space. There are many, many costs that go into being an escort. It may seem like we charge a lot, but we also have to spend a lot to be in this business. Most providers dont actually make a profit if they are touring - and are lucky to break even. It might be much better for someone who works from her personal home and doesn't have as much overhead - but consider adding a gratuity if you can spare it. A few extra $20s never hurt anyone. Those who do bring gifts or tips are often remembered, because it is so out of the pale for us. If she remembers you, she will bend over backwards to accommodate a future booking and is incentivized to provide you with an 'above and beyond' experience.
The most important thing about contacting an escort is the first impression you make. Your first point of contact is the key that will either get you a response, or will get you ignored. Many men contact multiple providers and then wonder why they dont hear back from any of them - the answer is usually that there is a problem with his enquiry. There are a couple of different types of bad first inquiries we get in this business.
1) The overly long copy/paste email that details the client's every fantasy. We can absolutely tell when you are using a copy and paste message, no matter how long you spend trying to make it sound personal. We understand why someone would do this, but if we figure it out, this will usually get someone no response. Most escorts figure it isnt worth their time to reply to copy/paste messages because the gent may have sent it out to multiple girls. If you send the same message to multiple women, they start to think 'maybe someone already replied to him' or 'he is just going to pick who replies first. If someone beat me to it, why should I bother wasting my time?'
There is also the issue of the inquiry that is overly long. I can't tell you how many "first" emails I read where the client lists in detail his sexual fantasies, almost to the point that it seemed like he was jerking off while he wrote the message. When this happens, usually it's because the guy is horny and is getting off on sending the message with no intentions to book. It's also just a waste of time to read something that long for someone who hasn't sent screening or a deposit yet.
2) The "I'm a white, fit, professional male" email. We get it, many men have seen escorts post "No AA" or "No Black Men" int their ads and feel like they need to mention how special and white they are to get a provider to reply. I will tell you right now, this is a bad idea. If someone posts this on her ad, it's because she is racist. If that's who you want to see, more power to you. Most providers won't work with clients who mention being white, fit, etc because we simply do NOT CARE. The best companions can find something attractive in any person. We really don't care if you are the hottest man on earth, or if you have the face only a mother could love. We only care if you are safe to see and hygienic. Screen and wash your balls - they keys to a companion's heart. If you mention being white, fit, professional etc, all we think is 'this man thinks he is better than my other clients and deserves special privileges based on his appearance'. It's a sure fire way to get your email sent to the trash folder with most ladies.
3) The 'Hey bb, are you avail?" email. It's so easy to just google whoever you are looking to see and check if she has a website. Almost all of us do. On our websites, we have listed our booking criteria. Men will often claim to be "new" to paid companionship as an excuse for not reading our websites or including info we ask for. Being new is not an excuse. If you can read, you have no reason not to use that skill to read a companion's website. She will detail how she wants to be contacted and what info you should include. If you aren't going to include the info she asks for (like date, time and duration), she isn't going to reply. It's a waste of time on our end, and yours too.
Did you notice how these three messages mentioned being clean? They aren't talking about STDs, they are talking about personal hygiene. NEVER refuse a shower if you are asked to take one. Assume the shower is on your time, unless otherwise specified by her. Use the soap, towel off completely. Clean your private areas as if God himself will be inspecting your body afterwards. Your companion will be clean for you, you should do the same for her. It's sad this has to be mentioned but it's the number one issue in the industry. Wash your hands when you come in. Show her you care. It will go a long way for you.
Last but not least, sex is not an olympic sport, and booking a provider is supposed to be uncomplicated. Dont arrive expecting non-stop action from start to finish. You are making a human connection, not using your escort's body to masturbate with.
You book us because we are supposed to be fun and with no strings attached. It's natural to be nervous, but it doesn't need to be scary. If you are clean and have the correct amount of money, you escort is going to love you. It's that simple!
Book, Screen, Clean, Pay, Repeat. Booking with a companion should be the easiest thing on earth, and it's only difficult if you make it so. If you relax, enjoy yourself, go with the flow and follow the rules, your escort will be happy to have you back as often as you wish to book her.
